Okay, I am going to try and give this a shot, but this is most probably not going to be a decisive answer.
Let us operate with the term event time and duration and consider only special relativity (SR). The conclusions of general relativity should be the same for reasonable space-times. (e.g. without closed time-like curves etc.)
We expect event time to identify the exact relation to all other events, i.e. at a given event time, we choose for events with a smaller time to be in the past and the ones with a larger time to be in the future. Notice that this notion of time does not really need any quantitative measure, it is more a question of a certain topological ordering of events.
However, the famous Rietdijk-Putnam argument shows, using relativity of simultaneity, that there is no natural global classification of such an order of events (at least without invoking a privileged class of observers). In special relativity, there is thus no global notion of event time.
It would seem that event time would make sense in the lightcone but it is not so. We can always order causally connected events, but for non-zero time-like intervals between them, there will always be adjacent events in their lightcones that are causally disconnected. I.e. there is never a nonzero volume of space with unique event time. The only case of event time in SR as I define it is the proper time on a single time-like curve and it's homeomorphisms.
As for duration, we want it to measure an amount of time passed. But how do we do it? We must compare the amount of time to a certain physical process. Galileo used his heartbeat, but we would use the cycles of radiation in the caesium atoms. In this sense, the physical process must always be happening in a certain frame of reference and special relativity tells us (and this is verified by experiment e.g. through mean decays of particles) that the duration of any physical process is happening with a stable rate with respect to the proper time in a given frame of reference.
Different observers will thus through time dilation have different notions of duration of processes observed in their surroundings. It is pretty easy to show that once again not even the ordering of magnitude of duration of physical processes is universal. As in the case of event time, there is no natural global definition of duration and a natural fixed comparison of durations is only possible on the world-line of the observer but nowhere else.
To conclude, there is thus actually no unambiguous time dimension/coordinate in relativity, be it event time or duration. You need four numbers to specify your event, but none of these are uniquely identifiable with either space or time (without a mixed-in part of the other one) unless you specify the observer who is asking that question.