Your cousin is right. The Universe is a 4D sphere W = r + Ix + Jy + Kz = [f, V]
The universe is defined by energy W = -vh/2pir + cP where -vh/2pir = -vp = -mv^2, a real number potential energy.
Newton found this in his theory of Gravity W=-mGM/r = -vh/2pir = -vp = - mv^2. Newton's energy is a real number or scalar 1 dimensional energy. Newton calculated the potential energy between m and M as if m is not moving. The fact is m is moving. The mass M creates a velocity field around it with speed v=(GM/r)^0.5 this field gives m a velocity V. Thus the mass m has a Momentum mV and vector and a vector energy cmV = cP the vector energy!
Physicists consider energy a scalar not a vector. The universe considers and most quantities a combination of a scalar and three vectors thus creating a 4d quantity called a Quaternion. William Rowan Hamilton developed Quaternions in 1843.
The vector energy is the so-called "Dark Energy'. This Dark Energy is hidden in plain sight. Every particle of matter that moves, m, creates Momentum P and Vector energy cP !
So the energy of the Universe is W = -vh/2pir + cP = [-vh/2pir, cP] 4D quantity.
Physics also does not have a 4D Derivative, I invented one X = d/dr + Del, the combination of Hamilton's Vector Derivative Del and a real scalar derivative d/dr=d/cdt.
With this we can find the real forces and they too are four dimensional;
Force = the first derivative of the energy W
F = XW = [d/dr, Del] {-vh/2pir, cP] = [vp/r - cDel.P, cdP/dr + Del -vh/2pir + cDelxP]
F = [vp/r - cp/r cos(P), -1P cp/r + 1R vp/r + 1L cp/r sin(P)]
F = cp/r[ v/c -cos(P), -1P + 1R v/c + 1L sin(P)]
The cp/r = cp/ct = p/t =mv/t = ma, Newton's famous F = ma.
The Quaternion has a scalar force cp =ma( v/c -cos(P)) the first term ma(v/c) is the Gravitational centripetal(cp) force the center seeking scalar force. This is the force that attracts the earth to the sun. The second term cf=ma cos(P) is the centrifugal (center fleeing) force is the force that keeps the earth from falling into the sun.
When the two forces are equal the earth's orbit is stable and tis is called Continuity Condition. This is also the explanation of the red shift. The red shift is the condition v/c when the orbit is stable.
The vector force is three vectors: -1P cp/r is the tangent force; 1R vp/r is the Gradient and 1L cp/r sin(P) is the circulation or curl force. Here again your cousin is 4 D universe.
another finding is possible, The Universe is stable if the first derivative is zero.
this zero is possible when F = ma{v/c -cos(P), -1P + 1R v/c + 1L sin(P)] =0.
This force is zero when the Quater nion is zero meaning the v ector is zero and the scalar is zero. This happens when cDelxP= cpsin(P)=0 meaning that 1P is parallel to 1R and coa(P)=1. Then the quaternion is zero when v/c=1 or v=c ! The Boundary condition is when the velocity is the speed of ;light. the Unverse is bounded at v=c and this is the
Max energy W = -vp + cp = cp + cP = mc^2[-1,1P]
My estimate of the minimum size is 155E24 meters and Mass 2E53kg and Power 3645E49 watts.
The universe is larger when not at Maximum c^2= GM/r.
Your cousin is right the Universe is 4 D sphere.
Einstein's spacetime is not a 4D universe, Einstein and Minkowski could be called a 2D complex universe (x + y _+ z + + Ir) this is 3 scalars and 1 vector equal a scalar and 1 VECTOR i. THIS IS NOT A 4D UNIVERSE.