For the purposes of this answer, I will consider the universe to be correctly described by General Relativity (possibly coupled to classical EM fields and matter) in its full form. That is, I will ignore quantum mechanics and any corrections to GR that we might find in the future.
There seems to be some confusion with words, so let me explain my understanding. To derive A from B means that B implies A in a mathematical sense. No more, no less. Sometimes people use the word more loosely, but what can you do. With this definition, it's not possible to derive Newtonian gravity from GR, because they have different predictions. For example, Newtonian gravity predicts that time flows at the same rate everywhere while GR does not. More practically, the Newtonian theory and GR predict different rates of precession of the perihelion of Mercury. Deriving Newton from Einstein would mean that Newton is correct (since Einstein is correct), and that is not the case.
You can derive things using assumptions. For example, if we assume that the Sun is perfectly spherical and is surrounded by empty space, we can deduce that the metric appropriate to the solar system is the Schwarzschild one. Whether our assumptions are correct or not is a different question; the Sun is not spherical and space is not empty, but if they were then the Schwarzschild metric would be the one to use.
Usually our assumptions are only approximately correct, as in the example above. The Schwarzschild metric works pretty well but not perfectly; to be more precise we could begin by using the Kerr metric instead, and then try to account for perturbations due to the planets and dust floating around.
A limiting case is related but different. This is where Newtonian gravity comes into play. We can expand the GR metric and curvature tensors as a power series around the flat metric; as long as we keep the full series this is the exact metric. Now, the Newtonian limit arises when we make the assumption that we're going to use this metric for small curvatures and velocities. In this case, keeping only the linear term of the series is a good approximation to the full metric. But this linearized metric is not an exact solution of the Einstein equations, only an approximate one. This approximation will be good as long as our assumptions are fulfilled.
TL;DR: We're free to make as many assumptions as we want and derive things; our assumptions hold in the real world with varying degrees of accuracy. A limiting case is different: you modify an equation assuming that your new, simpler equation will be a good approximation to the old one.