Landau & Lifshitz, The Classical Theory of Fields, $\S93$, deals with the action function for the gravitational field. To construct this action, they note:
"To determine this scalar we shall start from the fact that the equations of the gravitational field must contain derivatives of the "potentials (i.e. $g_{\mu\nu}$)" no higher than the second."
Why is this a fact? Why must the gravitational field contain only first, second derivatives of the "potentials"? Of course, without already knowing the Einstein equations.