An answer requires two order of magnitude estimates.
Absorption by the planet
The fraction $f_a$ lost to absorption is roughly
$$ f_a = -\sigma N $$
where $N$ is the mean number of nucleons along the neutrinos path and $\sigma$ is the neutrino nucleon cross-section at the appropriate energy (a few MeV). We can expand the number to
$$ f_a = -\sigma \frac{M_\text{venus}}{\pi R_\text{venus}^2} N_A $$
At solar energies the neutrino cross-section for neutrino--nucleon interactions is of order $10^{-45}\text{ m}^2$, the mass of he planet is around $5 \times 10^{24}\text{ kg}$ and it's radius is about 6000 km.
So
$$ f_a = -\left( 10^{-45}\frac{\text{m}^2}{\text{nucleon}} \right) \frac{5 \times 10^{27}\text{ g}}{10^{14}\text{m}^2} \left(6 \times 10^{23} \frac{\text{nucleons}}{\text{g}} \right)$$
punching the number we get
$$ f_a = -3 \times 10^{-8} $$
Gravitation focusing
Wikipedia tells me I can use
$$ \theta_E = \sqrt{\frac{4GM_\text{venus}}{c^2} \frac{d_s - d_l}{d_s d_l}}$$
for the Einstein angle. Lets compute that first and then we'll try to figure the amplification.
The first term under the radical is twice the Schwarzschild radius for the planet or about $2.5\text{ cm}$.
The distance to the source $d_s$ is $1\text{ AU} = 1.5 \times 10^{11}\text{ m}$ and $d_l$ is about a quarter of that. So
$$ \theta_E = \sqrt{(2.5 \times 10^{-2}\text{ m}) \frac{3}{1.5 \times 10^{11}\text{ m}}} = \sqrt{5 \times 10^{-13}} \approx 10^{-6} $$
(that is in radians of course).
The wikipedia then goes on to define a amplification in terms of the ratio $u$ of the angular separation (between the source and the lens) and the Einstein angle. Getting that exactly is tricky. I seem to recall that at closest approach Venus appears several times it's own diameter from the center of the sun (and we can treat the neutrinos as coming only from the very center as the fusion rate is strongly dependent on the temperature and pressure), and that Venus was very much smaller than the angular size of the sun.
Taking the angular size of the sun to be 0.01 radians, and the angular size of Venus to therefore be about 0.00005 radians I shall arbitrarily set
$$ u = \frac{\theta_{ls}}{\theta_E} = \frac{0.0002}{10^{-6}} = 200 , $$
so that
$$A = \frac{u^2 + 2}{u\sqrt{u^2 + 4}} = \frac{40002}{200\sqrt{40004}} = 1 + 10^{-9}$$
So the fraction gain is on order of $f_g = +10^{-9}$.
Caveats
Like I said in the gravitation section, the neutrinos come mostly from the very center and the planet passed a bit to one side, so the level of absorption may have been much lower than calculated and if the planet came close than I guesstimated the level of focusing could have been higher.
This makes me reluctant to declare absorption the winner despite the number.
Take it for what you will.