In continuum mechanics we use finite deformation tensors to exprime deformations in a point. The 9 components of the tensor (in reality 6 because of its symmetry) are defined as $$ \sigma_{ik}(\vec{r}) = \frac{dF_k^{(i)}}{dS_i} $$ where $k$ is the component of the force that acts over the surface perpendicular to axe $i$. We put this components on a "table" and we use matrix calculus to manipulate the tensor.
In linear algebra we saw only the definition of a tensor. It is a multilinear map $$ T: V\times \cdots \times V \times V^* \times \cdots \times V^* \to K. $$
In fact I really can't see that this definition correspond to my finite deformation tensors. Cans someone show me the relations between physics and linear algebra in this case? Why I can use a tensor as a matrix?
I read that if we use orthogonal axis we can avoid tensor analysis. Why?