The starting point of the rationale should be the Newton's classical gravitation field equation. This is not Newton's famous law of gravitation, but the Poisson-equation with the mass density on the RHS:
$$\Delta \phi = 4\pi \rho$$
This equation is much more general and allows to compute the gravitational potential for any kind of mass distribution expressed by the mass distribution density $\rho(\vec{r})$, in particular for $\rho(\vec{r})= m\delta^3(\vec{r}-\vec{r}')$ for a mass $m$ at $\vec{r}'$.
The EFE (Einstein's Field equations) should in any case contain the Poisson-equation in Newtonian approximation.
If we use the EFE in the following form (let's put speed of light $c=1$):
$$R^i_k = 8\pi G (T^i_k - \frac{1}{2}\delta^i_k T^l_l)$$
We limit the analysis to the $^0_0$ component:
$$R^0_0 = 8\pi G (T^0_0 - \frac{1}{2} T^l_l)= 4\pi G(T^0_0-T^1_1-T^2_2-T^3_3)\approx 4\pi G\rho $$
using $T_{ik}=diag(\epsilon, p,p,p)$ where $\epsilon \equiv \rho$ if $c=1$ is the energy density. This is the energy-momentum tensor of an incompressible liquid at rest.
Moreover we assume that in most cases pressure $p$ can be neglected as source of gravitation in this approximation
(in the Newtonian theory the pressure at least does not serves as source of gravitation).
So we already reproduce the source term (RHS) of the Poisson-equation. Trying to use the energy-momentum 4-vector or binomials of it would, however, fail to construct such an expression.
The analysis of the LHS is a bit more involved. The best approach is via the geodesic deviation equation. It is well-known that in free fall the felt acceleration towards the massive source can be completely eliminated, whereas extended probe bodies still feel tidal forces that cannot be eliminated. The formal description is done via the equation of geodesic deviation containing components of the Riemann-tensor:
$$\frac{d^2 n^i}{ds^2} =-R^i_{0j0} n^j$$
which describes the acceleration of a normal vector $n^i$ between two adjacent geodesics. In GR this tidal force is associated with the curvature of space, expressed in the equation by the Riemann-tensor.
Actually something comparable can also be done in Newtonian theory:
For two adjacent mass points on the orbits: $x^i(t)$ and $x^i(t)+n^i(t)$ we get 2 equations of motion:
$$\ddot{x^i}(t)= - \frac{\partial\phi}{\partial x^i}\mid_{x(t)}$$
and
$$\ddot{x^i}(t)+\ddot{n^i}(t) = - \frac{\partial\phi}{\partial x^i}\mid_{x(t)+n(t)}$$
Taking the difference of both equations yields:
$$\ddot{n^i}(t)= - \frac{\partial^2\phi}{\partial x^i\partial x^j}n^j(t)$$
So we can establish the following correspondence:
$$ R^i_{0j0} \leftrightarrow \partial_i\partial_j \phi$$
If we contract the indices $i$ and $j$ we get:
$$ R_{00} \leftrightarrow \Delta\phi $$
So if replace $ R_{00}$ by $\Delta\phi $ in the $^0_0$ component of the EFE we finally get:
$$\Delta\phi \approx 4\pi G\rho$$
Again, if instead we had tried it with the uncontracted Riemann-tensor on the LHS, we would have ended up with terms like $\partial_i\partial_j \phi$, which
don't appear on the LHS of the Poisson-equation. If we were not able to reproduce Newtionian physics in simple circumstances, something would be evidently wrong with the EFEs.
One could of course wonder if there are more subtle ways to reproduce the Poisson-equation from more subtle gravitational field equations since we need a quantum-compatible theory (replacing GR). This is subject of actual research.