I will refer to this video here at 5:20, https://youtu.be/ev9zrt__lec (This also applies to anything at rest relative to you, but hard to word in the title)
The video says that the reason why a person traveling in a spaceship at an appreciable fraction of the speed of light does not experience effects of time dilation because the effects of "time slowing down" also apply to their thoughts and motion etc. Is this the correct reasoning? Without splitting hairs, this implies that there is an absolute time, which they are slower than. Doesn't he not feel any relativistic effects(time dilation etc), only because he is not moving relative to himself, so there is no reason for anything to be slow to begin with?