I'm sorry for this question, I know it's been asked before What is an Electron? but the answer doesn't really help me..
Studying chemistry the teacher tried to explain what atoms are, what electrons are etc but in a very simplified way. I've never studied quantum physics or any advanced physics so sometimes, trying to read what electrons are, I get pretty confused and I don't understand. My question is: what is the correct way to think about electrons?
Studying electromagnetism we think about electrons as negatively charged particles, "little balls" that have a negative charge and are attracted to protons and that repel each other.
Other times, as in the question I linked above, people say "the electron is a standing wave".
Here instead you can read "they are both waves and particles all the time, and don’t just change from being one to the other depending on what’s done to them." and this defintion really doesn't makes sense to me.. electrons can't be two things at the same time, maybe they can behave like two different things, but they have to be one single thing. I'm typing right now using my fingers, which are made of atoms, which have electrons, I just can't believe that I have on my hands two different things at the same time (look at your hands right now and think about it for a second..).
Last example, the spin number was introduced thinking about that the electron could rotate. The definition, taken from Wikipedia, is "In atomic physics, the spin quantum number is a quantum number that describes the intrinsic angular momentum of a given particle." but then it takes very little to find something that contradicts it Why can't I just think the spin as rotating?
If this is not confusing I don't know what is.. I think all these concepts are not consistent with eachother (all true at the same time).. It makes me even question if what we study is correct.. like when in electrostatics we study Coulomb's law etc.. Do we really know what electrons are at least? From pages like this I would say "if they don't even know, I shouldn't even mind trying to understand", but at the same time, since they are extensively used (in physics, chemistry, electronics etc etc) I keep trying to understand.
What is the most recent, pratical and intuitive way to think about electrons?