How a so relative light mass particle only 511keV can be so small thus dimensionless according to the Standard Model (SM) or at least 10−18m upper size limit?
Because an electron is a point particle with no internal structure (as far as we can tell).
When a composite "particle" (like an atom) has internal structure, the size and energy can often be closely related.
For example, the "size" of a hydrogen atom (e.g., the mean inverse radius $<1/r>$ of the electron in the ground state) is about an inverse angstrom, which (in units where $e=\hbar=m=1$) is about the same as the energy required to remove an electron from the ground state. (They differ by a factor of 2, so we say they are the same order of magnitude).