Different inertial frames of reference are different views of the same reality. We are used to this in classical physics. But relativity violates our classically trained intuition and takes some getting used to.
Alice sits beside a road, occupying a certain position now. Later she is in the same position. She watches Bod drive drive by. Bob occupies Alice's position now, but a different position later. What Alice sees as one position at different times, Bob sees as a series of different positions at different times. We are not confused by this.
This is the kind of difference you get from relativity. Except that you have an incorrect classical understanding of what time is. You see the universe as a $3$D block that changes state as time flows. The present is all that exists. The past is over and gone. The future hasn't happened yet. An instant of time identifies the state of the entire universe at that instant. Every place in the universe is experiences the same instant together. This is called Presentism. All very straight forward, but this isn't the way the universe works.
Alice sits by the side of the railroad track. She has clocks spaced out along the tracks at regular intervals. All are synchronized. If you turn on a light halfway between any two clocks, they will record the same time when the light arrives at their location.
Bob rides by in a train at relativistic speed. He has the same kind of clock arrangement spread out in different cars. He has been in communication with Alice. He has spaced his clocks so that Alice agrees they have the same spacing as her own clocks. When the Bob passes Alice, each of Bob's clocks will be at the same position on one of Alice's clocks.
Bob has synchronized all of his clocks to his own satisfaction. If a light is turned on halfway between any two of his clocks, both will report the same time when the light arrives.
Furthermore, Alice and Bob have arranged it so that when Bob passes Alice, their wristwatches agree.
As each pair of clocks pass each other, each records its own time.
Our classical intuition tells us that all the clocks must record the same time.
- Alice has synchronize her clocks and arranged Bobs clocks to have the same spacing as her own. She expects all the clock pairs to pass each other at the same instant. And she is right. All of her clocks record the same time.
- As each pair of clocks pass, they are certainly in the same place at the same time. Therefore, if Bob's clocks are correct, surely each must report the same time as Alice's clock.
But Bob's clocks disagree with this. Bob still says they are synchronized, but they record different times of passing Alice's clocks. Clocks at the front of the train record an earlier time than clocks at the tail.
Alice and Bob both agree that these are the numbers that were recorded, all clocks and trigger mechanisms are in good working order, all spacings are as they were intended to be, and the train is moving as expected. This is not an experimental error.
What Alice says is one time in different places, Bob says is a series of different times in different places. Time is working something like how space works.
This is impossible to understand with time from Presentism. Time must work differently than we always thought it did. Understanding this and getting used to a different idea of time is the biggest conceptual hurdle in special relativity.
The standard way of reimagining time is the Block Universe.
The road before us and behind us continues to exist, even though those points are out of reach at the moment.
In the same way, the past and future exist even though those times are out of reach from here.
In this view, time does not flow. The past, present, and future simply exist. Time and space form a $4$D block, as in a space-time diagram. The present is a $3$D slice of space-time.
Different people can have a present that slices in a different angle. This means that Alice's present can use parts of Bob's past and future.
This correctly gives all the right answers, but it isn't very intuitively satisfying. It clashes to much with the appearance that an instant doesn't happen until its appointed time, and then it is immediately over and gone.
It can help to think of us as a reel of film in a movie. Each frame experiences its moment of play, but the whole film is permanent.
This leaves a question. Why does time appear to flow always forward? People have ideas, but this question is still debated. We don't really know.
Another way to reimagine time is that it does flow. Every world line progresses forward. But there is no universal way of matching up times for different world lines.
This does less violence to the everyday understanding of time. At least it flows normally for me. My past is gone and my future hasn't happened yet.
But you still have to let go of the idea that the entire universe is happening right now the way I match up world lines.
Again, this does not explain why time flows. It just does. We had the same question in classical physics. We are no better off now.
The difference between these two ways of thinking about time is purely philosophical. They correctly describe the same experimental results. They use the same space time diagrams.
Use whichever you prefer.
For more on the Block Universe, see What is time, does it flow, and if so what defines its direction?