The QFT is not a theory of classical particles. However it is also not a theory of classical fields. And it has both as liming cases. Because of that it is often useful to use the language of both while understanding that you talk about something that is neither one of them.
You may approach it in the field-centric fashion. Construct free QFT as a "quantization" of the classical free field theory, then construct interacting QFT as a perturbation by a local interaction.
Or you can approach it in the particle-centric fashion. Construct Fock space as a formal state space of relativistic identical particles assuming that they have momentum and are discrete entities. Then construct their scattering amplitudes as a formal series assuming that they interact in the local way (i.e. assuming that they are in a cerain sense pointlike). Because most of the problems in QFT are scattering problems you borrow from this way of thinking even when you start in the field-centric fashion.
I can see you screaming "But what about non-perturbative QFT???" But the thing is that most of the time we don't have anything you may call non-perturbative QFT!!! Instead you have recipes based on some ideological considerations that should complete you perturbative construction. Because we have some axiomatic field-correlator constructions (e.g. CFT) or semi-classical considerations (that assume the specific classical limit to work in this parameter range) that don't rely on the perturbative expansions, we try use them. But let's be honest, we must be ready that these recipes may fail to give the appropriate non-perturbative completion.
The fun thing is that contrary to what you write about string theory, it is built in the particle-centric fashion! The things like string dualities and AdS/CFT that we use to understand string theory non-perturbatively do not rely on attempts to generalize the field-notion like string field theory.
This goes with your comment about physicists and Gelfand triples. The mathematicians go with the purified abstract constructs that are defined in a closed and self-consistent fashion. The physicsts use the constructs to describe reality. So physicst tend to the way "Let's regularize and define it as a limit, hoping that it does not depend on the regularization" because:
- They are only interested in obtaining results
- They usually are lazy to decipher mathematitician's language that differs sometimes from the their language considerably. And unlike physicist mathemations more often than not do not give "the complete idiot's explanation of my idea" in their papers.
- There is often an actual physical reason to consider model as a limit of regularized stuff
- They often work with bad models (like non-renormalizable effective QFTs) that actually have regularization-dependence and other issues. And while mathematicians with give you their abstract constructs we return to the reasons 1-3 for the physicsit to skip them.
In fact most physicists don't care even about all the complicated stuff about QM: that there is all these stuff about definitions on dense subspaces, about self-adjoint extensions of symmetric operators, about rigged Hilbert spaces etc. When they find the issues with naive ways they usually regularize the problem and take the limit and reinvent e.g. symmetric operator with multiple self-adjoint extensions in the fashion they need for their physics problem. Or find that actually this limiting definition pinpoints the specific self-adjoint extensions whereas the abstract approach do not give you the answer. I personally had such experience.
So if you are a physicst do not cling to any nice model and actually absorb all viewpoints because you don't know which one will actually be more useful in the future.