Google has not been helpful because so many derivations of gravitational potential energy discuss $r$ at infinity. My understanding of this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcxptIJS7kQ
is: Dark energy increases with volume The volume of the universe is increasing. Therefore the total amount of dark energy is increasing. If the universe is flat , it can expand forever at an increasing rate. So the amount of dark energy $\to\infty$. The conservation of energy is not violated because gravitational energy is infinite.
We know that $$U=-G\frac{mM}{r}$$
so when $r\to0$ $U \to\infty$.
But no particle has zero radius so $r$ cannot be 0 so $U$ must be finite. So how can dark energy $\to\infty$?