I wanted to ask the same question in different ways.
1.Consider the below example whereby we have a man M in a box B in outer space. B is acted upon by a force, F. B moves in direction of F. As the force F acts on B & not on M, M appears to move in the opposite direction to that of B(though M isn't really moving). M doesn't know that B is acted upon by F as he cant perceive it. But what he feels is that he himself is acted upon by a force F1 which is in opposite direction to F. F1 is the fictitious force acting on M in response to the real force F.
So if in a context where you now consider B as the spacetime & F1 as the gravity, then what is F? In this context, notice that because you now consider B as spacetime, there are now no walls for B. Is F an effect of say, a mass (near to man M) on its nearby spacetime ? So is it that the mass applies an unnamed real force F on the spacetime around it causing it to curve and the curvature being produced is the fictitious force called gravity? Or in other words, we have the centripetal force as counterpart for centrifugal force. Centripetal force is a real force. So is there any for gravity? Or if there isn't any, why gravity can't be thought of similarly in this way to suspect a real force counterpart?
2.Asking this in a different way (but basically the same question), if fictitious forces arise in a non inertial reference frames, and if gravity is a fictitious force, that could imply the spacetime is a non inertial reference frame. So Why is spacetime a non inertial reference frame or accelerating reference frame in the first place? What specifically makes it so? Is it due to some real force acting on it? If so, what is it? Or is it that we never thought to think that way? (Because usually you get a non inertial or accelerating reference frame when a real force acts on it externally. That's why I am searching for a real force in this context.)
3.If gravity is a fictitious force & is basically the curvature of spacetime (hence not a real force) & mass (or stress-energy tensor whatever!) is what that causes the curvature, could it be said that the mass curves the spacetime by applying an unnamed real force directly on the nearby spacetime ?
4.My question asks basically don't we need a real force to explain why mass (or stress-energy tensor whatever!) curves spacetime? (atleast locally)
5.Lets say a mass or its stress energy tensor causes nearby spacetime to curve. Other masses near this mass move along their respective geodesics that appear to the 1st mass as if its curved & hence accelerating. (Even if these masses are moving with constant four velocity on geodesics, there is acceleration because of change in direction of motion of these masses as viewed by the 1st mass).So it can be thought as a 2 step process-1.effect of mass on nearby spacetime & 2.the effect of this nearby curved spacetime on the motion of other masses.So lets think the 1st step is due to a real force the mass acts on the nearby spacetime.(You might ask me why I think the effect of mass on nearby spacetime as a real force or even a force? A force is something that acts on a mass. But how can it act on spacetime? Spacetime has no mass. But spacetime has mass, right? Because it has zero point energy & energy is mass). And the motion of other masses appear to be accelerating due to the curvature produced by that real force. Note that the real force I asked to imagine acts on the nearby spacetime; not directly on the other masses. So even if the real force acts on the nearby spacetime of the 1st mass, it affects indirectly the motion of other masses in the vicinity. What 1st mass appears to see is that it directly affected the motion of other masses. As for the 2nd step, there is no force by which the spacetime acts on other masses. Its just because spacetime is curved, the masses follow their respective curved paths. Its due to the curvature. There's no real force there. So a fictitious force could play the role of a force in the 2nd step. Now if that fictitious force is what we name as gravity, what plays the role of real force for the 1st step? Or does gravity play roles in both the steps (in which case its both a real & a fictitious force)? But how can a thing be both real & fictitious force? A Fictitious force causes the same acceleration in objects of different masses unlike a real force. Gravity exactly does this (atleast locally). So its counterintuitive to think its also a real force. But I think you can come up saying that gravity is also a real force because it is different from our usual notion of concept of force in that when it acts on a mass B due to a mass A so as to cause a change in the motion of mass B, it acts so by disturbing the spacetime in between the 2 masses by curving, pulling & twisting. Usually forces act linearly. But maybe gravity doesn't. But that's a whole new idea to come up saying that gravity acts curvilinearly. I am sceptical about it. So given the fact that forces act linearly only, what is then the general consensus about whether its a fictitious force or a real force or both? I think that its fictitious locally but acts as a real force globally as globally the gravitational field is no longer uniform. But then if its fictitious force locally, what plays the role of real force locally?
There were related questions in this site but are not same.
Why exactly space curves due mass in space
Does spacetime have a "mass" value? or What is "Spacetime" made out of?
EDIT: I did some amount of reading. My question above holds true if gravity is fictitious. But I found that gravity is not fictitious. And in short, that is the head-on way to tackle this question. Because the question is closed , I cant answer this below.
In most scenario's of freefalling objects, we tend to miss the motion of the earth towards the object. If we take that into account, we come into conclusion that the heavier mass fall & reach the ground first. So to a person standing on earth the heavier mass has more acceleration. This is not what happens with a fictitious force. For fictitious force the person on earth would measure same acceleration for heavy & light masses.